Sorry Officer I was too drunk to realize I was drinking and driving

Date rape is a very touchy subject. People feel strongly about it one-way or the other. I feel that it is a very sexist crime because it is far easier for a woman to claim it then a man. An awkward morning does not come from a boring or lonely night. Have you ever been drinking and done things that you regret. Sure we all have Alcohol shuts the brain down and allows more of your primal urges and basic instincts to come out. Reasonable thought is one of the first things to go.

But to claim rape when the circumstances were in your control is just not right. I feel that it should only be considered date rape when the other member slips you a drug. You are the one who controls how much alcohol enters your system. No one is forcing it down your throat so you should learn your limits and regulate how much alcohol enters your system. You wouldn’t argue a drinking and driving case by saying that you were to drunk to realize you were driving.

When I was 18 I wanted to keep my virginity until I was married. It was a noble cause and I had many offers but I turned them down. Well one night my friend asked me to come to her party and have a few drinks. I said sure because I just started drinking and really enjoyed it. Well everyone at the party knew what the plan was and 2 girls there had a bet on who could take my virginity first. People at the party also had money down on which one would score. I didn’t know that this was the plan or I would not have had so much alcohol. They made me a pitcher of a special jungle juice claiming that they did this to all newbie partiers in their group. I said why not and drank the whole thing. I had no idea how much alcohol I could handle because it was only my 8th time drinking. And the party went on and I cannot really remember what happened. All I know is I woke up the next morning and my friend was wearing my shirt and I was naked. I was so embarrassed I grabbed her shirt threw my pants on and ran out. She called me later and we went to get breakfast with the group and that’s when I found out about the bet. It changed my view and actually allowed me to loosen up. I used to be so uptight about things. Sure most people will say it was a bad experience but I learned a lesson and could then freely start dating without the pressure of losing my virginity. I wouldn’t be with the girl I am so happily with today if I didn’t lose my virginity.

The hardest part was telling the girl that I loved at the time that I was no longer a virgin and made a decision that I didn’t really regret. She said she felt sad for me and that was when I could take her off the pedestal I had her on and move on with my life.

I know what it is like to be taken advantage of and I feel that you should learn from your mistakes. It happened to me again at a different party but since then I have learned how much alcohol I should consume and not go sleeping around.

If you are the one that puts yourself in the situation then you are the one who should take responsibility for your action. Just because alcohol is a factor doesn’t mean that it controls you.

And in most cases of date rape the other member has been drinking as well. So why cant the guy argue that the girl took advantage of him. It is because it is engrained in society that men are always looking for sex and women aren’t. Even though that is not always the case. I know quite a few women who like to drink and fool around while drunk. So why is it different if you are a male and do the same thing?

And don’t tell me that women get drunk faster than men because that just means that women should drink less. It is up to the person to control how much alcohol they consume. Everyone should know their limits and take responsibility for what they do while they are intoxicated.